adoption

Dr. Federici's book saved our family. We were drowning in chaos and confusion, and with 3 very troubled adopted children. His book is an extension of his practice model (proper evaluation and intensive parent training). All the other professionals we saw did not have a clue how to handle our children, so we went on our own and got the right help we needed. Nothing crazy like "holding therapy" which we tried and discontinued. This book give structure and hope when all else is or has failed.

Dr. Federici's book put us back on track and 'in control" of our family after years of wasted, costly therapy for our two Romanian children. We had tried about everything, including this "neurofeedback" for RAD which was a total waste as our child had brain damage, not RAD like all these therapists like to push (RAD,ADHD, Bipolar, ODD--seems they diagnosis all these kids with it when they do not know what else to do). We called Evergreen, Villa Santa Maria, and a few other places that claimed to be able to help, but none had a solid plan, but sure wanted the money. So we went to Dr. Federici and his "team approach" and got further in three months, than we did with all the other professionals over the span of four years. This is the right approach and book when you are at the end of your rope, and is endorsed by some of the real experts in the country. Also, this Dr. actually has Internationally Adopted kids of his own, so he gets real life credit. He neds to lecture more to get the correct word out to families in need.

After struggling for years, and reading all these other books on attachment, behavior problems, therapy and about everything else, we got Dr. Federici's book and finally found someone who really "gets the picture". We have also seen about everyone who claims to be the real "expert' in attachment, behaviors, traumatized kids, etc. They quickly took our money, gave us all kinds of theoretical discussions about how screwed up our kid was (like we did not already know!), and then did everything from some wierd holding techniques (which made it worse), talked to him and us, then told us "to keep coming". Never an end till we read this book. Even with the typos, it was clear, solid and structured. Certainly not an easy treatment, but one where we saw results in one month, compared to the years of wasted therapies. This book is a MUST for families who got deceived by their adoption agency and are really struggling.